Never The Bride

Personally, I wouldn’t recommend online dating to my friends. It’s too unrealistic it’ll drive you nuts. It’s like a fantasy world that would make you believe prince charming is just there searching for you, but in actuality, you need to compete with a lot of witches and evil step sisters before you can live happily ever after with him. However, to all those stubborn Cinderellas out there who still want to give it a try, I have a few pointers to share.

Good Profile First, you will need a decent profile if you are dead serious about finding the one through online dating. Sure, you want to draw attention, but uploading a fake photo and lying about your age or gender or marital status are a big NO-NO. It’s not worth it unless your intention is to find a D.O.M. [tsk tsk tsk]. Just be yourself but keep also in mind that you don’t have to reveal everything in your profile. Here’s the silly thing, I noticed that most members don’t really read profiles. I’m guessing, they only look at the photo and if they like it, they’ll send you a flirt/interest note/message. So upload your most presentable picture and keep your introduction short. Tell them about where you came from, your job, hobbies, but I strongly suggest that you only share intimate details to those who rightfully deserve it. I’m referring to those frogs princes who sincerely want to know you better (ex. how many kids you want). Some princesses think that being too open can lead to a “happy ending story” so they share every single detail of their life from their first day in kindergarten up to how they ended up working as an office clerk. Read: It is usually a turn off. In addition to that, headers such as “ready to settle down as soon as I find him” is not advisable simple because it sounds needy.

I went out with my high school buddy, Mary, and guess what? She’s the happiest woman in the whole wide world! The exact date is already confirmed and she finally got her Papa’s elusive “YES” She and her boyfriend of four years are about to tie the knots this August 2009 and she wants me to be her maid of honor Yehey! I am very happy for her and I am sooo excited for myself. I’ve attended two church weddings before but this is the first time that I’m going to be a maid of honor. Wow!

What makes me more excited is that she’s also asking if I could assist her in the wedding preparations. As if I know a lot about weddings hehe! But “sure, sure, sure!” I wanna help in choosing the perfect bridal gown Mary also wants me to add some weight. Have I mentioned before that I’m skinny? Oh yes, I am. The bride-to-be wants me to wear something sexy on her special day. Wahahaha! Joke.

More than anything else, I am very flattered that Mary didn’t forget me. I know for sure, she already met a lot of new friends after high school. But the mere fact that she still considers me as one of her most treasured friends means a lot to me, sob! hihihihi! Isn’t that amazing? And by the way, is maid of honor english for abay? ‘Cuz I’m not quite sure lol! 

In many western countries where people are sexually liberated, virginity is just a nine-letter word and is absolutely not a requirement for a successful marriage. However, for most Filipinas who grew up in a judgemental society that dictates women to stay “pure” while men are permitted to be sexually active (double standard eh), it is the greatest gift a wife can give her husband. More so, girls who experienced sex before tying the knot are thought to get less chances of having a happy married life, or worse, they get labeled as flirt, whore, or bitch I know a friend who was so scared to tell her new boyfriend that she’s not a virgin anymore simply because she thought he’d stop loving her the moment he finds out about the truth. In my point of view, I think it is totally unfair to discriminate a woman based on what is in between her legs. As long as she fearlessly stands by her choice, whether to keep her purity until her wedding night or to practice her sexual freedom, men should not make an issue out of it.