Never The Bride

Just yesterday, I received an e-mail from my college friend Andrea. I was really excited to hear from her after more than two years of not seeing each other. I was pretty sure she has a lot of stories to share so I immediately opened the message. To my disappointment, she was just asking if I could meet this guy who is searching for a new girlfriend. Huh?! She arranged a blind date for me! EEEEEEH! What’s with her? Has she gone nuts? She didn’t even ask if I’m still available or if I’m currently seeing someone…but of course, she isn’t forcing me. It’s just that…sigh…never mind. She said she’s just trying her luck on me. She already asked a lot of friends to do it but they all declined.

eh bakit kaya hindi na lng xa? !

You see, blind date isn’t really my cup of tea. In fact, I don’t even drink teas! I want mango juice! (haha! bobo!). Seriously, no. I don’t like blind dates. I am “allergic” to a lot of things and one of them is blind dating. You never know what you’re going to get into and it’s scary. I’ve heard a lot of horror stories about date-rapes, yah know? Trouble is, I don’t know how to say ‘no’ in such a way that she won’t get offended Andrea has always been nice and sweet to me especially during college years. And if someone is nice to me, I return the favor by being doubly nice.

Just in case somebody out there is looking for a date or a blind date to be exact, please do contact me (*giggles). As if, somebody would give a damn haha!

Safety First

You need to understand that the world of online dating is so uncertain and it can be dangerous if you are bobo don’t know how to take care of yourself. There are a lot of gremlins bad people out there such as racists, scammers and sex maniacs so you better take some precautionary measures. Never give your contact details right away. I don’t know for sure when is the right time to do so, but I think it is vital to ask questions about why he/she wants to keep in touch with you. If you are unsatisfied with the answer, and don’t be stupid, answers such as “I fell in love with you in just five minutes of chatting” is unbelievable, meaning, it’s time to request for an FBI background check. Of course, it’s not cute to bombard a person with questions about his/her intentions, so you better do it in a polite manner if you don’t want to pick a fight with anyone. Yes. It’s sounds mechanical and quite unromantic, but that’s the way it goes.

Make Friends

If you already conditioned your mind that you’d only join online dating sites for the sole purpose of finding the one, chances are, you’ll get tired too soon. It would be nice to meet new friends from different sites of the world. I’ve met online girlfriends from Thailand, China and there is also one from Estonia and I find them very nice people. We talked about our experiences in online dating, and not only that, about our work, family, culture, etc.

Note: Everything I said is just based on my opinion and I’m not forcing my beliefs down anyone’s throat. Cheers!

Good Conversation

Nothing beats a person who talks with sense. A person who is not interested in anything, no matter how pretty she is, is sure to be a major turn-off so bring out the substance. Since most members are coming from faraway kingdoms countries, it helps a lot if you are able to speak an international language such as German or English. It’s going to be a huge problem if you only know how to say “guten tag” or “hello” and nothing more. But don’t worry because perfect grammar is not a requirement. As long as you can express yourself then you’ll be alright. However, there are certain topics that you need to avoid especially if you haven’t met the person in real life. For the ladies, kindly minimize money talks and if only I could, I’d also ban you from asking for financial assistance whatsoever! And for the men who only want to talk about sex, please do me a favor and go to h***!