Never The Bride

Safety First

You need to understand that the world of online dating is so uncertain and it can be dangerous if you are bobo don’t know how to take care of yourself. There are a lot of gremlins bad people out there such as racists, scammers and sex maniacs so you better take some precautionary measures. Never give your contact details right away. I don’t know for sure when is the right time to do so, but I think it is vital to ask questions about why he/she wants to keep in touch with you. If you are unsatisfied with the answer, and don’t be stupid, answers such as “I fell in love with you in just five minutes of chatting” is unbelievable, meaning, it’s time to request for an FBI background check. Of course, it’s not cute to bombard a person with questions about his/her intentions, so you better do it in a polite manner if you don’t want to pick a fight with anyone. Yes. It’s sounds mechanical and quite unromantic, but that’s the way it goes.

Make Friends

If you already conditioned your mind that you’d only join online dating sites for the sole purpose of finding the one, chances are, you’ll get tired too soon. It would be nice to meet new friends from different sites of the world. I’ve met online girlfriends from Thailand, China and there is also one from Estonia and I find them very nice people. We talked about our experiences in online dating, and not only that, about our work, family, culture, etc.

Note: Everything I said is just based on my opinion and I’m not forcing my beliefs down anyone’s throat. Cheers!

Good Conversation

Nothing beats a person who talks with sense. A person who is not interested in anything, no matter how pretty she is, is sure to be a major turn-off so bring out the substance. Since most members are coming from faraway kingdoms countries, it helps a lot if you are able to speak an international language such as German or English. It’s going to be a huge problem if you only know how to say “guten tag” or “hello” and nothing more. But don’t worry because perfect grammar is not a requirement. As long as you can express yourself then you’ll be alright. However, there are certain topics that you need to avoid especially if you haven’t met the person in real life. For the ladies, kindly minimize money talks and if only I could, I’d also ban you from asking for financial assistance whatsoever! And for the men who only want to talk about sex, please do me a favor and go to h***!

Personally, I wouldn’t recommend online dating to my friends. It’s too unrealistic it’ll drive you nuts. It’s like a fantasy world that would make you believe prince charming is just there searching for you, but in actuality, you need to compete with a lot of witches and evil step sisters before you can live happily ever after with him. However, to all those stubborn Cinderellas out there who still want to give it a try, I have a few pointers to share.

Good Profile First, you will need a decent profile if you are dead serious about finding the one through online dating. Sure, you want to draw attention, but uploading a fake photo and lying about your age or gender or marital status are a big NO-NO. It’s not worth it unless your intention is to find a D.O.M. [tsk tsk tsk]. Just be yourself but keep also in mind that you don’t have to reveal everything in your profile. Here’s the silly thing, I noticed that most members don’t really read profiles. I’m guessing, they only look at the photo and if they like it, they’ll send you a flirt/interest note/message. So upload your most presentable picture and keep your introduction short. Tell them about where you came from, your job, hobbies, but I strongly suggest that you only share intimate details to those who rightfully deserve it. I’m referring to those frogs princes who sincerely want to know you better (ex. how many kids you want). Some princesses think that being too open can lead to a “happy ending story” so they share every single detail of their life from their first day in kindergarten up to how they ended up working as an office clerk. Read: It is usually a turn off. In addition to that, headers such as “ready to settle down as soon as I find him” is not advisable simple because it sounds needy.